Study: Happiest Couples Not Necessarily Those Feeling Close to Each Other

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Study: Happiest Couples Not Necessarily Those Feeling Close to Each Other
Sat 16-02-2013

Researchers at Columbia University surveyed 732 men and women, and discovered that the happiest couples were not necessarily those who reported feeling very close to each other.

Rather, those whose "actual" level of closeness was similar to their "ideal" level of closeness were the most satisfied with their relationships, no matter how close they actually were.

The participants were asked questions about their current and ideal relationship closeness, relationship satisfaction, commitment, break-up thoughts and symptoms of depression.

%57 of the participants reported feeling too much distance between themselves and their partner; %37 were content with the level of closeness in their relationships, and five percent reported feeling too close.

Those who over the two-year study period, experienced a greater alignment in actual and ideal closeness also experienced greater relationship satisfaction and mental health quality.

"It’s best not to make too many assumptions about what constitutes a healthy relationship," said study author Dr. David Frost in a press release. "Rather, we need to hear from people about how close they are in their relationships and how that compares to how close they’d ideally like to be."

Couples who enjoy closeness will be glad to know that previous research has shown the importance of cuddling, and talking in a relationship.