You may have watched ‘Monster-in-Law’ or heard horrible stories about sour relationships between newly weds and their mothers-in-law, but that is not necessarily the case.
There will be some awkward moments and some tension at times, but you should be clever enough to rise above the trivial issues and deal with your new situation sensibly and in the best interest of your long-term marital relationship.
Some brides think they are being smart by building walls and putting limits for their mother-in-law, so that she won't interfere with their personal life. This is a mistake. There are many other mistakes that you might make without noticing if you are not careful enough. And that could cause tension between you two.
What could these mistakes be? Here are the top 5 mistakes that brides are prone to make when it comes to their relationship with their mothers-in-law:
#1 Excluding your mother-in-law while planning or preparing for your wedding day, or even furnishing and deciding on your house! This will only make your mother-in-law feel bitter and unwanted. Ask your mother-in-law for her opinion, and regardless of her answer, don't feel that she is trying to interfere; it's her son's life too.
#2 Trying to show your mother-in-law that you have a strong personality. Giving her clever or even sarcastic remarks will only make her feel uncomfortable around you.
#3 Controlling your husband, and making him ignore his mother's opinions is the worst thing you could ever do.
#4 Not accepting compliments or gestures from your mother-in-law will only make your husband feel tense and can even cause problems between you two. Accept whatever she has to give and show appreciation.
#5 Forcing your husband to spend most his time with your family and relatives while ignoring his side of the family is very disrespectful, and your mother-in-law will definitely notice that.
Try to give equal quality time for both families. Avoid these mistakes, and try to be nice and helpful to your mother-in-law, even if she gives you a hard time.
If you treat her nicely she will have no other way but to be nice and understanding. And remember once you are married, your husband's family is your family too.