How to Politely Ask for Money as a Wedding Gift

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How to Politely Ask for Money as a Wedding Gift

There is always so much to do when planning a wedding that it seems like the questions that arise are never ending. From what to wear to the post-ceremony venue and everything up to, and including, the honeymoon, it’s stress right up to the moment you walk down the aisle.

Added to the normal stress every soon-to-be-bride experiences, there are endless customs and points of etiquette to observe that your head is left spinning. So it is with wedding gifts. Is it polite to ask for specific gifts, among which the most controversial is money?

Here is how to politely ask for money as a wedding gift:

How and When to Ask

There are 2 schools of thought on this: Some wedding planners say that this is something that could be mentioned on the invitations you send out, while  others believe that it is tactless to do that, so they look for alternatives. Here is one suggestion: Why not send out an engagement announcement, prior to the wedding invitations? Here is where you could say that an invitation is forthcoming when a date, time and location are agreed.

You could also mention in this announcement that while you appreciate gifts, they aren’t necessary. However, the one thing you can use would be a small gift of money if they want to give anything at all. This can also be extremely helpful for out-of-town family and friends. Instead of searching for a gift they would need to carry with them, they could send their gift via Ria international money transfer. Whether you choose to mention gifts on the invitation or in some other way, it’s important to mention that gifts, while greatly appreciated, aren’t expected.

A Look at Why So Many Couples Ask for Cash

As with anything else in life, customs change. For example, some of the things we take for granted today, just weren’t done in our grandparents’ and great-grandparents’ day. Ladies didn’t wear slacks to work, and they surely didn’t smoke in public. 

The point here is that today, a great number of couples actually live together before tying the knot. With that said, they probably have much of what they need in terms of a household, so money really does make the most sense. Even though some people take exception to being ‘told’ what to give, if done politely, they shouldn’t have a problem with it. It’s all in how you ask for it. Having said that, I must point out here that this point is applicable to Western couples and not to Arab couples in the Middle East. 

The main reason for asking for cash nowadays is to help with the expenses of the wedding, honeymoon and the newly-weds homes. Many couples prefer to get cash instead of gifts to decide how best to use the cash on useful things that matter to them most. 


If Talking Money Makes You Uncomfortable

One other suggestion which has come up on bridal boards online is to appoint someone as liaison when following up on invitations. This could be your maid of honour or a close friend. When asking if they plan to attend, and maybe taking orders for their choice of entrée that will be served, that person could bring up the subject of money. They might mention that there is no bridal registry but a gift of money would be lovely as it could be used for the honeymoon to make this a truly memorable time in the life of the newlywed couple.

Again, it’s all in how you approach the subject that makes a difference. If talking money truly makes you uncomfortable, there are other ways to do so. But in the end, it’s up to you how you approach it. Just do what comes naturally and you should be fine.

Author Bio: Tricia Lee is a contributing writer at Sparkwebs, a Digital Marketing Agency. When she’s not writing, she loves to travel, dance, and read non-fiction.

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