After being happily married for 33 years, Dr. Phil McGraw shares some of his thoughts about what makes a marriage work:
#1 The quality of a relationship is a function of the extent to which it is built on a solid underlying friendship and meets the needs of the two people involved.
#2 You get what you give. When you give better, you get better.
#3 If you put your relationship in a win/lose situation, it will be a lose/lose situation.
#4 Forget whether you're right or wrong. The question is: Is what you're doing working or not working?
#5 There is no right or wrong way to fix a relationship. Find your own way that works. But recognize when it's not working and be honest when it needs fixing.
#6 Falling in love is not the same thing as being in love. Embrace the change and know that it takes work.
#7 You don't fix things by fixing your partner.
#8 Intimacy is so important because it is when we let someone else enter our private world.
#9 You don't necessarily solve problems. You learn how to manage them.
#10 Communicate. Make sure your sentences have verbs. Remember that only 7% of communication is verbal. Actions and non-verbal communication speak much louder.